Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for 3 years. We are both planning on going to the same university in September but both want different things when we get there.

I wanted us to apply for accomodation together, however he wants us to live in seperate halls to still have our independancy. He is positive that this can work, however I think that our relationship will not be able to work this way as we will not have the same friends. I fear that with our friendship groups being different, we will drift apart and not be able to socialise together. I also think that there will be very limited time for us to spend with each other when having completely different friendship groups to make time for. I feel this so strongly that I am having trouble coming to terms with the fact that he actually wants to risk it and live in a different building to me.

I cant say for definate as I am not yet at university but I just wondered if people could please give me their opinions and advice.

Is it better and more likely for it to work if we live together? Or better for us to live in seperate buildings? Will we still see each other?

Somebody please give me advice from personal experience and relationships because this is driving me crazy. I wanted it to work so much but at the moment cannot see how it will. Can it?

Thank you.

Kelly ***Filtered***

If you don't live with him now, what's changed?

You can still spend time together, but you still have space as/when you need it.

A friend of mine and his girlfriend did this in their first year at uni - they were in separate halls of residence. It worked fine (although sharing a single bed is not so great). They moved into a shared house in 2nd year where they had a room each.

They split up before the end of the second year.....

I have a totally different friendship group to my boyfriend, even at school. And we worked!

It's good to live apart for the first year. Perhaps you can move in together in the 2nd year?

kelly , you seem to have no confidence in you and your BF.
ask what you really want and what's your BF's
consult with your BF
if living in separated buildings (even just this?)can stop the relationship
how further can you go